What About My Sons?

Am I the only mother who feels like her children aren’t scared enough? Like I’m not teaching them survival skills? I have two sons. Twins. One has a socio-emotional learning disability where he doesn’t pick up on social cues. It’s hard for him to get sarcasm or read tones of voice. What happens when the…

Inboxes from Hell: my life on Facebook

7/14, 6:03am Strangerdude: Hello! I would love to add you to my group 7/15, 8:58am Me: Hello. who are you? and what kind of group? 7/15, 10:31am Strangerdude: Hello. The name of my group is called women who only want 3some’s. I host parties both stateside and internationally. I personally hand pick all the members…

Throwback Thursday: Morning Creep

I am a believer in online dating. I was using the personals way back in the way back. Meeting folks in the City Paper… With NO PICTURES in the 90s! So I know my way around a blind date. And I’m pretty proficient in weeding out the “crazy” prior to it showing up on my…

“You Ain’t Got No Job, Man!”

This is a rant. I hate nigga shit. Not “black people shit,” strictly nigga antics. Ignorant folks doing ignorant shit. But I live in DC, Nigga Shit capitol of the Free World. From the politicians to the police to the everyday citizens… A friend calls the other morning to tell me about a job fair…

Hypothetically Speaking…

Ladies. Take heed. Hypothetically. So even if you’re feeling comfortably frisky and tipsy on a first date, do NOT under any circumstances, either real or imagined, give your date head in the car afterwards. Yes, you are both adults, and yes, it might be fun and a little risqué, but from that point on whenever…

Moments in Love (Open Letter)

(this began as a free write to sort of my feelings after a particularly cathartic moment for me. it snowballed into an open letter that I just emailed before I totally lost my nerve. now I’m all in my feelings.) This is what I know. I want a love of my own. Singular. Someone who…

Armor. Chink 1.

On a good day, my armor, this thick skin, quick wit, easy laugh and sharp tongue I wield as a Single Black Woman with Kids is lightweight and flexible. I am Superwoman leaping tall buildings in a single bound, bringing home the bacon, frying it, serving it… All that. Then the tables turn and what…